When something goes wrong in one of our training sessions, we might start getting emotional:
We might start to feel bad, mad or sad.
Or we might start complaining.
Or blaming: it must be him, or her, or the horse.
But wherever we throw it, wherever we pass the buck, it will make its rounds and come back to us.
This is known as karma:
What goes around comes around.
It means, we cannot throw our emotions anywhere!
It’s only in our imagination that we think we’re throwing it:
- You can get angry and shout.
- Or cry about what happened.
- So you think you let it go.
But the other person or horse has a choice whether to be affected by your madness or sadness or not.
He has a choice to either react, or just ignore it, or just walk away, or whatever.
So your own emotions and actions mostly affect...
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Blaming and complaining and getting compulsively emotional will create a natural consequence.
And by the time it makes its rounds and comes back, a snowball might have become an avalanche, and you can’t recognize that you started it... it's so big!
Here's a little story to illustrate this:
The Game of Akbar
One of the great emperors of India was Akbar.
Now Birbal was Akbar’s minister, and he lived in the hearts and minds of Indian people.
He was very intelligent and a man of great sense of humor.
But one day, in the full assembly of the court, and without any warning or provocation, Akbar just turned around and slapped Birbal in the face.
The whole court was shell-shocked.
They couldn’t believe this.
He’s the number two man in the empire!
Birbal also didn’t know why he was slapped like this, and he could not ask, that was too dangerous.
But he was a very intelligent man:
The chief of the army was standing next to him, he just turned around and slapped him.
That guy was already in a shock, seeing Birbal being slapped, now he being slapped, he did not know what was happening here.
Then he reasoned:
Akbar slapped Birbal, Birbal slapped me, there must be something to this... and he turned around and slapped the next guy.
It is said that that slapping went on all over the capital - whoever was lower was hit.
Three days later, after a hard day’s work, Akbar went into the queen’s chamber to meet her.
The moment he entered, the queen slapped him.
He got really mad and said:
“What's the matter? How dare you slap me? I am the emperor around here!"
The queen said:
“Why are you getting angry like this? Don’t you know your game has been going on all over the nation for the last three days?
The rules of the game are, whoever slaps you, you can’t slap that person back, find somebody else, and slap them!
And you started this game, and today somebody slapped me, and I slapped you, and reached the goal, and completed the circle, and finished the game."
It's like karma:
We let it out, and wherever we let it out, it makes its rounds and comes back to us.
So if you don’t want karmic missiles to come and hit you, the first steps that you take are:
- Stop blaming
- Stop complaining
- Stop being a WLB
- Stop passing the buck
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